I was out and about the other day and I saw a giant bundle of balloons caught up in a tree. My first thought was of Charlie Brown and how the trees would eat his kites. My second thought was how sad… love has been lost and is now caught up in a mess. How many of you are dealing with this or the mess of its wake? How much drama and heartache has followed you after a break up?
Dealing with love lost puts you under a microscope. You look to your circle to help you through. Some have sound advice while others are spewing their own pain onto yours because misery loves company. But I have a challenge for you. Do you think you can handle it?
Write down everything you can think of from that relationship that comes to mind. The good. The bad. The ugly. All of it. Let it all out and then let it sit. Seriously. Walk away from it and give it at least 24 hours before you come back to see all that you wrote. Those of you strong enough will go over the list and own your part of it. What were you responsible for? What did you do to contribute to the demise? Could you have done anything different or better? After marking which ones are really yours, the challenge is to forgive your former love of the rest. No, I’m not kidding.
Start with the small items on your list. I forgive you for…. Say it out loud! Go through each and every item until you have forgiven the other person of how they hurt you. Take the remainder of your list and head to your bathroom. Stand in front of your mirror and look yourself in the eye. Really look into your eyes and see the pain and swirls of emotions. Now say, “I forgive you for…” and forgive yourself of all of the pieces you contributed to this relationship. Go through each and every item. Do you feel the difference? Was there a noticeable shift?
The greatest thing to keep in mind is if love can be lost, it also can be found. It starts with releasing all of the old hurt and pain, and allowing yourself to be vulnerable again. Ask aloud for your heart to be prepared to recognize and receive love. Raise your awareness level of how you operate and have thanks in your heart for all of the love you have had, and will have again in the days to come. Love always has a way of coming home.